In the past year I’ve been working on my relationship with money. I noticed how trapped I was feeling and I asked my soul for help. This was the conversation.

When you’re unhappy with any situation in life, the fastest, easiest and most enjoyable way to get unstuck is to fully embrace what’s in front of you. Learn from it. 

Dear Soul, 

Right now, money feels tight. I know this isn’t always going to be like this. I know abundance is my birthright. I just realized that this is a great opportunity to learn frugality. Embrace it. Learn to  shop, cook and eat in a much more sustainable and frugal way. These skills are a blessing. While I’m waiting for the universe to shower me with abundance of my manifestations, I enjoy the present moment and the lessons it has. 

Q. What’s the difference between being grateful for the present moment  AND wanting/manifesting/striving towards something else? Those seem like opposites.

You accept the lessons you learn from each situation, not the situation. You’re not accepting abuse, you’re accepting that it shows you how strong you are, it teaches you to be confident and trust yourself. Once you see the lesson rather than the pain it will disappear. The more painful your situation is, the more potential it has for joy.

Q. So will I always be in a cycle of painful lessons?

No. You already left those cycles. You can learn lovingly. It’s about appreciating the lesson. The value it’s bringing. Wanting certain things is a separate thing. You are always wanting/creating your life.

Q. Where does the need to fight against uncomfortable things come from?

There’s a fear that if I “accept” something then it will stay. You’re not accepting situations…you’re not accepting your money situation and you will make changes when opportunities come up. But in the meantime you are surrendering to the situation.

Q. Why am I struggling so hard to surrender? 

You weren’t taught how to enjoy lessons so you went through difficult life lessons in a painful way. You weren’t supported and you learned to reject support and only rely on yourself. You isolated yourself. You’re unlearning these coping mechanisms now. You’re learning to flow. You still have small remnants of your old ways that come up. You let those go lovingly with ease. Once you surrender you will see how quickly and easily your life becomes fun. Easy means you are flowing. You don’t need to struggle or crave or be in pain. Pain doesn’t feel that same because pain is not supposed to be debilitating. When you have support, pain is more like a gentle nudge that turns into an AH HA moment.

“Pain” when you have surrendered to love, is just the gentle down of life. Like a river flowing, a wave going up and down. The downs are not rock bottom like they have been for you, because now you know.

Q. So what do I do now to fix my finances? 

Appreciate the lesson here. The lesson to eat, live and flourish without needing much. The beauty of life without money. Appreciate money as well. Both sides. Realize that money is an amazing gift and you should value it like you value other things in your life. You’re feeling about money for a long time has been “fuck you, I don’t need you”, out of fear and ego. Now you have the chance to change your relationship with money. Appreciate it for what it is and what it can do for you. This is also a great opportunity for you to learn to manifest and see the results. Learn to manifest when you really really want something. Learn to detach. Trust the universe to provide in the right timing.

Thank you!

I love you!